A Fertile Life

Some years ago, I participated in a clinical-community call with the CEFP (Clinical Excellence in Fertility Professionals) led by Dr. Randine Lewis, author of The Infertility Cure and The Way of the Fertile Soul. 

On one of the calls, something that Randine talked about was that she doesn’t feel that she treats Infertility.  In fact, she doesn’t even believe in the word Infertility anymore. She believes in focussing on Fertility rather than Infertility. 

When struggling with fertility, we can often no longer feel like ourselves.  Trying to conceive takes over our life and our minds with hyper-awareness of everything from what we eat, to what the most subtle lower abdominal twitch might mean, to how sad and guilty we feel about our friends’ pregnancies.  Moments free from fertility-related thoughts seem increasingly rare and unfortunately, pregnancy feels like the only way out.  It’s a thought cycle that we can easily get trapped in, so how can we break these thought patterns? How can we reclaim our fertility?

A recent study published in the Dec 2010 issue of the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology Canada found that women with poor emotional health were twice as likely to take longer than six months to conceive.  Unfortunately it also found that emotional health deteriorates when couples do not have success conceiving within six months.

It’s a vicious cycle, and of course it's about getting pregnant, AND it can also be about the journey. It can be about discovering how to live a Fertile Life.  Where is your life stagnant and how can you mobilize it?  What brings you joy and how can you incorporate it more?  How can you open up your life to invite all that it has to offer?

There’s an old saying: "Instead of trying to be a mountain, be the valley of the universe, so all things will come to you." ~Lao Tzu

 

 

Alda Ngo